135 NW 3rd St.
Prineville, OR 97754
Upcoming Classes:
Sept, 21st
TBD
Jesus said, in the sermon on the mount, "Let your 'yes' be yes and your 'no' be no" . but then he added that anything beyond that comes from the evil one. Matt. 5:37. All too often we say 'yes' when we feel a 'no' in our spirit. So when we don't "own" our own heart and have an inside 'no' and speak an outside 'yes' we become angry and resentful and feel like a victim. We are not victims, we are not being authentic or real, but avoiding confrontation and being disobedient to the spirit inside us. Boundary training is about learning how to own your own heart and how to be obedient to the Spirit God has placed in you.
Jesus is our example of what an authentic life looks like. He always listened to his heart where God would speak to him. "I only do those things that the Father tells me to do and I only say what He tells me to say."
In this class we will learn about three things that we all do which never work in relationships: trying harder, being nicer, and taking responsibility. All three are things we've been taught most of our lives.
What are some of the reasons we say 'yes' when we feel 'no'? Where does our responsibility to set boundaries begin? What are we responsible for and what are we not responsible for? How does co-dependence violate Boundary principles? These are some of the topics we'll discuss tonight.
A lot of people can't set healthy boundaries because they believe the myths and conflicts they hear in their heads and that they feel.
It is very important to understand the opposition that we will face, so that we are prepared to do the things that are necessary to set healthy boundaries. This is the theme of tonight's class.
In marriage we often see one or the other spouse try to control the behavior, feelings or thoughts of the other.
Another thing that we see a lot in marriages is the blame game. One partner blaming the other, rather than taking responsibility for their feelings.
A very high percentage of people who come in for counseling are dealing with boundary issues and conflicts setting boundaries on their own behaviors in the areas of time, eating, money matters, sexuality, gossiping or too much talking etc..
God is very boundried and He created us to be like Him. Boundaries are about owning your own heart--being authentic. Healthy relationships are relationships that have good boundaries. Unhealthy relationships don't have good boundaries.
Do you want to know what God has to say about romance and love and sex? In this 3,000+ year old book we learn about attraction, dating, courtship, considering the cost, marriage, the honeymoon and how to fight fair in marriage.
Many of us don't realize how important our identity is. It's generally the first thing that the enemy attacks. Most of us think, incorrectly, that our identity flows from our performance, but in the Kingdom, our performance flows from our identity.